> How do people flip from mocking everyone as snowflakes to being the ultimate victims and snowflakes themselves and not bat an eye? Not have an ounce of cognitive dissonance?

Because it’s a strategy. They understand that the overriding goal for everyone on their side is to win. So they can swing wildly from preaching accountability to mustache-twirling because it’s all just a means to an end. When you experience the cognitive dissonance, it’s softened by the fact that your team is kicking their asses.